Support the Small Things
We talk a lot about showing up for the big moments—birthdays, weddings, and funerals—but the reality is that support is built in the smaller, everyday moments.
The reality is, support is built in the small moments, the ones we don’t think twice about. Doctor appointments, grocery runs, quick trips to the store, these everyday tasks carry a lot more weight when you’re doing them alone. And sometimes, just having someone with you makes all the difference.
We tend to convince ourselves that if we haven’t been there for the big things, we’ve already failed. Too much time has passed, we missed our window, so what’s the point? But that’s just not how human connection works.
Friendships don’t always thrive off grand gestures; they survive in the consistency of showing up, even if it’s in ways that feel mundane.
The Weight of the Everyday
When was the last time you asked a friend if they needed anything from the store? Or offered to come with them to an appointment they were dreading? These little moments are opportunities we often overlook because they seem small in comparison to the "big stuff."
But if you’ve ever had to do something nerve-wracking or even just inconvenient alone, you know how much it means when someone offers to be there.
Think about how much better a tedious errand feels when you have someone tagging along. Like when you’re grocery shopping and a friend comes with you, making it feel less like a chore and more like a casual catch-up.
Or when you’re waiting at the pharmacy and someone is just there, keeping you company, making the wait a little easier. It’s the difference between feeling isolated in your routine and feeling like someone actually cares about your day. And that applies both ways, sometimes, just inviting a friend to come with you can remind them they’re not alone, either.
Breaking the "Too Much Time Has Passed" Mentality
We get stuck in this loop of thinking that if we haven’t checked in for a while, we’ve already lost our chance.
But that’s not true. People don’t keep a running tally of how long it’s been since you last did something for them. What they remember is how you make them feel in the moments that matter. And sometimes, the moment that matters is just getting through a Tuesday.
The best way to be there for people is to make support a habit, not a rare event.
Send a quick text when you’re heading out to pick up groceries. Check in if you know a friend has something stressful coming up. Offer to ride along, even if it’s just to keep them company. These things might not seem like much, but they build trust, comfort, and connection over time.
The Power of Just Showing Up
We overcomplicate what it means to be there for each other, convincing ourselves that support has to be perfectly timed or profound. But sometimes, just sending a quick check-in text or offering to keep someone company during an errand is enough.
It’s not about always having the right words or making some grand statement. Sometimes, it’s just about being present.
Sitting in the waiting room with them.
Pushing the cart while they grab what they need.
Be a familiar voice in an otherwise stressful day.
It doesn’t have to be a big deal, it just has to be something. And if we all did that a little more, we’d all feel a little less alone in the day-to-day.